I suspect I've done even more than you!

I think maybe the way you leapt on to one word of my post distorted the way it was read by some people afterwards. I was merely warning about the dangers of pinning hopes on a relationship with any girl, particularly one who meets a lot of farangs, over a long distance. I've known quite a few hotel receptionists, over a long time. It's simply the case that they'll meet a lot of people. I've seen how Thai girls have guys in reserve, balance them. While the OP's heart may grow fonder, it's unwise to pin so much hope on one girl, WITHOUT being there.

OP, just live there. You're young enough.