Divorce - Advice please

[fsh76]

Hello all,

I am looking for advice on what is easier / cheaper with regard to divorcing my thai wife. We are now mutually separated, I am in the U.K. and she is back in Thailand. I am aware by going back to LOS to divorce is the straight forward way, both signing a form / declaration at the Amphur and then a Divorce Certificate can be issued on the same day. However what I am interested to know is if I did not want to go back, can I make divorce in the U.K. without my wife being present on grounds of dessertion, she has been back in LOS since mid-april.

Any advice / information would be greatly appreciated.

Regards

frase76

[the_link]

Hi, Fraser. Sorry to hear about this. I'm not up on divorce procedure but PM me anytime, mate.

[Gary & Nok]

Sorry to hear this, not a great subject for you to have to discuss.

We are now mutually separated, I am in the U.K. and she is back in Thailand. ...
...can I make divorce in the U.K. without my wife being present on grounds of dessertion

Just a thought, if you are mutually separated how can she have deserted you?

You can divorce because you mutually agreed to (what I did). We set a date that we had started to live apart and that was put to the courts and agreed upon.

it depends how quick you want to do this. If it's quick, and she agrees, go to LOS. Otherwise it will be a few years (at least) in the UK.

I'm sure the legal bods (or others in the know) will be along shortly to give their knowledge.

[fsh76]

Hi Gary,

Cheers for your quick response, I think by what you've said going back to LOS will be the most straight forward way to get it done.

I wasnt sure if I needed a grounds for divorce over here, but it was definitely mutual.

Thanks again Gary

Fraser

[Wolfy]

Sorry to hear of your problems Fraser (i've been there so i know what it's like)

i also think that's your best course of action. Once you've got the "sad" part out of the way, go and have a bloody good holiday mate.

[fsh76]

Thanks Tony & Steve,

Yep, well with what was going on end of last year I kinda knew it was inevitable, (arguments etc) England just wasnt for her and she couldnt get her head around being married, she was more interested in her thai friends and living like a single woman but relying on me soley just for money, where I live there are lots of them, unfortunately they all seem to be very selfish pain in the a'%e type of women. Fortunately we both agreed that she didnt want to change/adapt after everything I had done for her and she would be more happy back home with her family. So no hard feelings, and on a even happier note I have now met someone different - a Filipino lady here in the U.K., totally different attitude ie not lazy has a job and much more open minded about life.

Best regards to all.
frase76

frase76

[the_link]

Would your wife agree to a quickie divorce at the Amphur's office, Fraser. If so, then a not inexpensive trip to LOS to get things sorted once and for all is probably the best for you and new your girlfriend?

[fsh76]

Thats probably the way forward Tone, Wont be until early next year I go back, I still love LOS and and the people, but so many flaws if you scratch the surface.

[the_link]

I don't know your wife obviously, Fraser, but she might possibly decide now or in the future that a sweetener is required to gain a quickie divorce. Maybe not, but worth bearing in mind.

[fsh76]

I understand Tony, you might be right mate, however the separation was made in her choice, thats the road to take that SHE decided. But bizarrely my feelings were mutual, after 6-7 years of travelling to LOS, two uk visit visas and finally marriage and settlement, things did change significantly with her, she wasnt the same happy go lucky lady i first met, she became more arrogant, selfish, moody etc.

[colin244]

where I live there are lots of them

There certainly are in Essex fsh75 and sorry to hear but if its mutual ok and if she is ok about it a quick trip to LOS and the Amphur is the way but note links words as there was a post a while back about extortion money for a divorce from the Thai lady involved.

Good luck with your future lady and hope it turns out ok but there are some good Thai ladies (I have one as a wife )

colin 244

[SDM]

I don't know your wife obviously, Fraser, but she might possibly decide now or in the future that a sweetener is required to gain a quickie divorce. Maybe not, but worth bearing in mind.

Personally I would say, having been through a divorce in the UK, from speed and expense
points of view, just jump on a 'plane, get it done quickly without giving her to much time to think about what she requires in compensation, have a holiday, and come back a free man. It's so much easier here really. Divorcing in the UK is like stirring treacle with a blade of grass.

S

[KhunIanB-UK]

As SDM says above, and also, there would be something niggling me that would say, however amicable the split, don't hang around and steer clear of the in-laws and family.

[billythebrick]

fish was you married in thailand or britain it is most impotant, if married in in thailand no problem

[colin244]

Good question billy.

colin 244

[steady]

Why bother getting a divorce right now? You are living thousands of miles apart so just let things settle. If at some time in the future there is a requirement to divorce then do it. It will be easier if both parties are totally cold and matter of fact about things. I think anything less than a year means that emotions may run hot and could end up costing you - I agree with the earlier poster about a sweetener being required. From what has been written I would just do nothing, which is often not a bad option.

And yes, I've been through it all before and the stupidest thing I did was try to get things finished too quickly when feelings were running high. Common sense goes right out the window!

Steady

[colin244]

Wise words steady but every case is different in these circumstances.

colin 244

[SDM]

Why bother getting a divorce right now?

Because once the family gets involved the sweetener could end being a bitter pill. If the lady doesn't plan to get immediately married she might ask for something silly. Why not ask for a million baht, she has nothing to lose !

S

[steady]

True, but if she is reasonably sensible about things right now her family are probably going to pressure her to get more anyway.

[bifftastic]

I know there's often talk of paying people money for divorces to proceed quickly, but why would you? Unless you're desperate to remarry quickly, I can't see the leverage the other person has.