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    Default Dad has died in thailand, what to do next?

    hi there, my family and I are in situation that we were not expecting. Our dad past away last week in Thailand, my sisters visited my dad in Thailand where they found him very poorly and dying from cancer, he had met up with a young thai girl who was far as we were told was his new girlfriend, my sisters came back to the uk saying only a few weeks left to live hes very ill.. We asked him if he had a will, he said no. since the passing of our dad we have had constant text messages and phone calls saying " where's the £40.000 the girlfriend was promised" we new nothing of this, but he was due to be cremated today at 10am uk time, this didn't take place as she stopped the funeral saying where's the money. We are totally confused now as a will has now been found saying and I quote the girl is to be given the money. But the money from where??? he has none, apart from his home in the UK. So the main question is, if there is a thai will, would that will stand up in the Uk??
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    Very sorry for your loss. The link. Below may be helpful :

    http://www.nidirect.gov.uk/when-someone-dies-abroad
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    Quote Originally Posted by courtchandler71 View Post
    So the main question is, if there is a thai will, would that will stand up in the Uk??
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    I would say no.. But you will need to wait for one of the legal team to answer that question.

    Ps.. Sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad.

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    Get yourself a decent solicitor. Also talk to the embassy for consular assistance. At a guess he could be repatriated and can of worms regarding death certificates etc. A girl friend ???????????????? Who witnessed this will etc. ??

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    Hi and thanks for getting back to me. My dad is was still a uk citizen this girl, well she's taken everything and he only died last Thursday
    We are dumbstruck. And don't know what to do.
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    Sorry I clicked the liked button in error.

    see here

    https://www.gov.uk/government/upload...dA4_0713xx.pdf

    e:mail the embassy now

    I am guessing you need to repatriate your fathers body. It won,t be cheap.

    Where is your father ?

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    Hi hes is prachuab kiri khan, he should have been cremated today but the girl stopped it

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    sorry I pressed the liked button again in error . If it helps you could send me a PM. I will try to use my listening skills if nothing else.

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    Ok but how ???

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    Who has arranged the funeral?
    How is it being paid for?
    Is a funeral in Thailand without his family there what you want?

    If he's made a will leaving money to a Thai girl that's up to him. This may not apply to you but there is a tendency in the UK for children to be brought up by their parents, get help with their first car, mortgage etc. then ignore them until they start thinking of their inheritance. They then find their aged parent has decided that paying out for a young Thai girl to be a companion is the best use of their funds instead of hoarding it for their ungrateful brats who check in occasionally to see if their inheritance has materialised.

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    Sorry to hear your news but as said above you need legal help here and a UK solicitor experienced in such matters.

    On a similar theme my dad died in Spain on holiday with my mum (the beneficiary of the will) but even with all UK people involved it was a nightmare getting his body back here for the funeral.

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    Quote Originally Posted by courtchandler71 View Post
    Ok but how ???
    Click the button on the task bar marked "private messages". You need to contact the embassy as a matter of urgency. Sadly there are no magic bullets. It may be stressful and difficult.

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    well thankyou very much for your comment. I think you have either misread my message or your assuming im after my dads money.....I was taken back by this message was and deeply hurt, my dad made his own decisions lived his life they way he wanted to. there is no money or will there ever be any. And as for your last comment we are not unfrateful little brats

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    My sincerest condolences.
    But when your sisters were there and found he was dying,why did they not stay?
    Please forgive my question.......but was it there age.........did they have to return for another reason?
    Have they met with your fathers partner?
    What views do they have on this situation
    Who is paying for the cremation?
    Has the cremation stopped simply because she has no funds to pay for it............are you prepared to pay for it as an interim measure?

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    I would continue dealing with your fathers estate on the basis that there is no will. Based on the latest information you received from your father he died intestate and you should proceed with dealing with his estate on that basis.

    If there is a will that is legally recognised then you, as the administrator of the estate can deal with it should one be presented to you. In the meantime you follow the intestacy rules and procedure and deal with your fathers estate accordingly.

    If he was not married to this woman, in the absence of a legally valid will she is entitled to nothing in law.
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    The other question you need to ask yourself, is where your father would have liked to have been cremated/buried. If this is in Thailand, that will be a lot cheaper. Do you not have details of a close friend of his, in Thailand? That would be a great help.

    Personally, I would want to fly over, make sure he has a decent funeral, then fly back and carry on as Tobias has stated above. The girlfriend is completely irrelevant, in my view. Tracing any assets in Thailand will be difficult, expensive and timely, but by the sounds of it these are minimal.

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    hi there. my sisters went out basically to bring my dad home, but he didn't want to at that point, he had cancer in throat tummy and lungs, he had a thai girl there with him and they both said they were ok to stay. but once then came back my dad was in hospital nearly every other, near the end he said to my sister " I want to come home now" so we started to make the arrangements but in the mean time he passed away last Thursday. in my dads thai bank account was enough money to pay for every thing, but the account was closed and money removed from it after he had died. As for the girl she was a great help to my dad. the funeral took place yesterday,

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    Glad to hear your happier. Thanks for your PM. I hope you have established a tter relationship with your fathers lady friend. Probate is very stressful as is closing his life. No doubt there will be a house to clear etc. Hope you have the documents for the registrar and pension providers along with all those other little details. Please come back if you need help. I/we wish you well.

    The advice from Tobias should be given serious consideration and he is generally held in high regard on the forum.

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    That's right bro we are not ungrateful little brats!I was willing to fly back and get him.It was his wishes to stay there and when he changed his mind he was too late.It has been heart wrenching.

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    thankyou for getting back to me, many things have taken place over the last few days. My dad has now been cremated and his best friend over has the ashes. to which he is sending back to us. My sisters have seen a solicitor and now things are going ahead, thanks once again for your advise
    paul

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