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    Default Help on effects of divorce on children - Thai articles

    Hello my wife is from Thailand and would like a divorce, mainly brought on by arguments about her gambling. I am trying to impress on her the adverse effects divorce has on children, although unfortunately her English isn't very good.

    I am therefore looking for general articles in Thai about the long lasting effects divorce can have on children.

    If any one can point me to a Thai website or article I'd be most grateful.

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    This isn't what you asked for but if it were me writing the above I'd want someone to say this:

    Your wife is the one gambling, presumably well on the way to destroying your family's future, and is so unrepentant about that that she wants divorce from the person caring about the family rather than dealing with that big problem...

    ... and you're the one wanting to try to convince her not to divorce?

    In my opinion you should be running for the hills, taking your kids with you. She won't listen anyway. If she can't face up to her gambling problem, she already doesn't care enough about the adverse effects on the kids. She'll pretend it all away rather than confront it.

    Having seen the gambling addiction at close hand, it just gets worse. Addicts don't listen to reason. It can't be good for the kids to see their mother hocking the family possessions, going off to gambling dens rather than look after them, etc. Not to mention the effect on you. You'll be mentally drained trying to control your wife and run the risk of having little left for them.

    I've seen Thai-farang kids after the mother has left due to addiction problems and they've been fine.

    Number 8 on that site? Finances?! Your finances will be better off away from a gambler!

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    If she like gambling then your better of without her and so will the children be


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    Bonzo44
    you are not the first guy that has a problem regards your wife's infatuation with a deck of cards.
    my first wife began that practice Shortly after settling in the UK. My marriage lasted 26 months
    I was anxious for her to meet up with Thais settled in our area unfortunately it was the girls who regularly met up on Mondays, gambling which was costing me £200:00 a week needless to say I made her leave. jack our son was 12 months old he stayed with me I remarried 3 weeks after my divorce to Kanchana and couldn't be happier
    I guess u would like the marriage to work but usually Thais can be so head strong the gambling won't stop
    if the kids r yours keep hold of them

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    I concur with the above statements. Do a Google search on Thai women gambling - I doubt you'll want to continue with the marriage if you do. You won't stop her, the marriage will head downhill, fights.......bla bla bla.....that will have a far more serious affect on your kids than a reasonably amicable divorce.

    I know of one girl over here, not too far away from me - she's like a drug addict. She steals from her husband, sells his cars when he's away (he's a dealer), once pawned his £12,000 Rolex and on and on. Every time she promises she'll stop, tears, counselling.................rubbish, she won't stop and neither will yours.

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    Sounds like me flip. I had a Thai girlfriend before who was addicted to gambling. She even watched me when shopping got my PIN number and ran up a £1000 dept in one night on gambling with my debit card. I had her arrested twice for assault on me. She sold contents from the house to feed her horrible gambling habit and when I finally had enough of it all. She even tried blaming everything on me. So the short of it is. Get divorced from her, before you have nothing left


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    Hi, my Thai wife and I are looking for a UK based relationship counsellor who speaks both Thai and English. Any assistance would be very appreciated. Thanks, Paul and Dang.

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    Hi Paul, welcome to Thailand-UK. I can't help specifically with your query, but you might find Relate (https://www.relate.org.uk/) will be able to assist, and advise on options regarding Thai speaking counsellors. Their main telephone number is 0300 100 1234.
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    If there isn't a Thai / English councillor I'd have thought they'd be a good need for one - but it would be very difficult for them however to not bring one or other (depending on where they've spent most time) culture into the equation without upsetting either of the two parties. Frankly if you wife even considers councilling your onto a good start.

    Good Luck on your Quest !

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonzo44 View Post
    Hello my wife is from Thailand and would like a divorce, mainly brought on by arguments about her gambling. I am trying to impress on her the adverse effects divorce has on children, although unfortunately her English isn't very good.

    I am therefore looking for general articles in Thai about the long lasting effects divorce can have on children.

    If any one can point me to a Thai website or article I'd be most grateful.

    Thank you
    You must of known that she is a gambler before you'd had married her

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    Quote Originally Posted by Flip View Post
    I concur with the above statements. Do a Google search on Thai women gambling - I doubt you'll want to continue with the marriage if you do. You won't stop her, the marriage will head downhill, fights.......bla bla bla.....that will have a far more serious affect on your kids than a reasonably amicable divorce.

    I know of one girl over here, not too far away from me - she's like a drug addict. She steals from her husband, sells his cars when he's away (he's a dealer), once pawned his £12,000 Rolex and on and on. Every time she promises she'll stop, tears, counselling.................rubbish, she won't stop and neither will yours.
    Does the husband know what she is doing or is he stupid

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    She is the one screwing up. She is the one with the problem. She is the one in denial. Then SHE wants a divorce!!!

    Mate, trust me this is her way of making you allow her to continue. She has no intention of getting a divorce. When she realizes she will be back to Thailand, back to the family with nothing to show she'll go into meltdown.

    She sounds detestable if I'm honest. Someone who has kids and carries on like that then threatens their wellbeing without a second thought. Those children are better off without her.

    I would think that it is her who needs to realize what she's doing and seek help. If she doesn't you know its curtains.

    Regarding the above post, don't take any blame yourself. Even if you knew she enjoyed a flutter doesn't mean you thought she'd be a hard core addict.

    BTW - my parents stayed together for 20 years for the kids' sake. Worst thing they could have done.

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    Looks like the OP has not been back (since he originally posted) to pick up any of the above wisdom.
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